I always feared this turning into a current affairs blog but its me that can't happen. I am just sharing my view on current affairs and believe me this is not a news piece but it would be nice to see this piece in a newspaper.one day ,one day....
So a courageous group of men in Kenya are boycotting meals coz of the recent surge of husbands being battered by their wives. Thats a funny one,ati now they are trying to top off the sex boycott that was held by the women. Well, judging from the comments from my acquintances, women are the least moved,some of the comments go like this:"most men are walking around with beer bellies and a self imposed fast is welcome", "they barely can boil an egg to save their lives", "Times are hard.If I can get to save a little money by not having to feed one member of the family then im cool with it." So what do you know there's a group of women not moved.... I would have suggested something drastic like,like,like...hmmm thats a hard one coz most women are used to their husbands not showing up for days, a good percent doesn't sleep in the same bed, another percent doesn't dare touch even when in the same bed.So there goes my idea of a sex boycott heheheeeeheee. Most men couldn't even handle the thought..hehehee(I digress).
So how about I just get to the heart of this piece. I think that this on -going feud between people who claim to love each other enough to live together till death do them part is simply from a competition that has existed for years.
A few years back the man was ahead in several ways,he was taken to school thus educated, he was employed thus independent, he was a role model thus had a high status in whichever capacity, he was strong therefore was the first choice to do anything and everything. The woman?hmmmmm..we know.
Recently, the woman has made rather huge strides in all the above fields and done better. She has the support system of laws, bills and organizations. The woman has become empowered. This is simply a word for 'kugutuka'. She is now at the same level with the man. She reaches for the bill after a dinner date,infact she drove herself there, she is so confident now to ask the dude out again..,,,,...not a bad thing,ryt? well this is the problem ryt there.
Ive heard the statement" Behind every successful man is a woman" well now its "Beside every successful man is a successful woman or "Beside every successful man and woman is success". Whoever comes up with this stuff is good just replacing the word behind with beside and the whole thing changes..heheheeee..(i digress again)
I think men should just accept that they are no longer seated at the throne but rather they are seated at a round table. Get it? it has no beginning nor end so you can't tell who is head or not...This might be hard with a typical african man who is blinded by a culture that told him he was the final say in the family, now the urban man might view it as a threat to his already fragile ego and come up with a way of avoiding further shame..maybe that's why they'd rather marry a rural woman,one who knows her place...(i digress for the last time)
Marriage was never meant to be a battle field, love is not meant to generate hate and success of whatever kind is meant to be a source of pride and not a catalyst for unhealthty competition. It'll be a while till I get a ring but I hope my husband will understand that I no longer stand behind him but beside him.
So a courageous group of men in Kenya are boycotting meals coz of the recent surge of husbands being battered by their wives. Thats a funny one,ati now they are trying to top off the sex boycott that was held by the women. Well, judging from the comments from my acquintances, women are the least moved,some of the comments go like this:"most men are walking around with beer bellies and a self imposed fast is welcome", "they barely can boil an egg to save their lives", "Times are hard.If I can get to save a little money by not having to feed one member of the family then im cool with it." So what do you know there's a group of women not moved.... I would have suggested something drastic like,like,like...hmmm thats a hard one coz most women are used to their husbands not showing up for days, a good percent doesn't sleep in the same bed, another percent doesn't dare touch even when in the same bed.So there goes my idea of a sex boycott heheheeeeheee. Most men couldn't even handle the thought..hehehee(I digress).
So how about I just get to the heart of this piece. I think that this on -going feud between people who claim to love each other enough to live together till death do them part is simply from a competition that has existed for years.
A few years back the man was ahead in several ways,he was taken to school thus educated, he was employed thus independent, he was a role model thus had a high status in whichever capacity, he was strong therefore was the first choice to do anything and everything. The woman?hmmmmm..we know.
Recently, the woman has made rather huge strides in all the above fields and done better. She has the support system of laws, bills and organizations. The woman has become empowered. This is simply a word for 'kugutuka'. She is now at the same level with the man. She reaches for the bill after a dinner date,infact she drove herself there, she is so confident now to ask the dude out again..,,,,...not a bad thing,ryt? well this is the problem ryt there.
Ive heard the statement" Behind every successful man is a woman" well now its "Beside every successful man is a successful woman or "Beside every successful man and woman is success". Whoever comes up with this stuff is good just replacing the word behind with beside and the whole thing changes..heheheeee..(i digress again)
I think men should just accept that they are no longer seated at the throne but rather they are seated at a round table. Get it? it has no beginning nor end so you can't tell who is head or not...This might be hard with a typical african man who is blinded by a culture that told him he was the final say in the family, now the urban man might view it as a threat to his already fragile ego and come up with a way of avoiding further shame..maybe that's why they'd rather marry a rural woman,one who knows her place...(i digress for the last time)
Marriage was never meant to be a battle field, love is not meant to generate hate and success of whatever kind is meant to be a source of pride and not a catalyst for unhealthty competition. It'll be a while till I get a ring but I hope my husband will understand that I no longer stand behind him but beside him.
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